Dear Darestars Diva,

My girlfriend got me a cock ring for my birthday. She says it would be fun for us to play with. I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do with it, but I’m too embarassed to admit that to her so I just thanked her and hid it in the bottom of the sock drawer. What is a cock ring for, and what do I do with it?

Sincerely,
Ring Around the ‘Rousal

Dear Ring Around,

One ring to rule them all and in the darkness bind them… or do the two of you like to have sex with the lights on? A cock ring is a device used to restrict the blood flow out of the penis. It can, among other things, allow a man to retain his erection for a longer period of time or delay orgasm. Which is not to say that your girlfriend is trying to tell you something. A lot of men really enjoy cock rings as a part of sexual play. An ex of mine has a big thing about them, and so I decided to ask him if he could explain the appeal. He said Read the rest of this entry »

Dear Darestars Diva,My best friend pointed out to me the other day that she could see my nipples sticking out through my bra and my shirt! I was mortified. Is there anything I can do so that I never have to have such an awkward conversation again?Peeved to be Perky

Dear Perky,

Nipples are nothing to be ashamed about! We all have them. Robert Heinlein used to talk about them a lot in his books – he claimed to be particularly fond of using them to read a woman’s mood. Erect, or perky, nipples are usually a sign of arousal or cold, but in point of fact some women’s Read the rest of this entry »