As a bisexual woman, I sometimes get annoyed at the commercialization of girl on girl action. Don’t get me wrong. I love girl on girl action. I’ particularly fond of it if I’m one of the girls and the other girl is a leggy redhead… but I digress. The commercialization of girl on girl action bugs me, because I am a great believer in equality of the sexes, and no one is giving me an equal amount of female-targeted boy on boy porn. Sure I could go to gay sites, but I find it terribly unfair that straight men get girl-girl erotica targeted directly to them and straight, or not, women don’t get any reciprocation.

What’s that all about? Why is alright to ask two women to fool around for a man’s pleasure, but scandalous for me to ask two men to make out for mine? It’s not like the women involved are that much more likely to be seriously interested in each other. Yes, female bisexuality is somewhat more common than male bisexuality, but not to the extent it’s portrayed. Most of the women I know who have made out, or done more, with other women to turn on a man did it for the man, not because they had a secret desire to start batting for the other team. I’m, personally, always happy to have an excuse to fool around with an otherwise unaccessible hot straight girl, but I think it’s more than time for men to provide women with a little reciprocity.

I’ve got to tell you, men, that if you want to bag a hot bi-babe, then being willing to make out with one of her, or your, hot guy friends is going to give you a leg up on the seduction. Most of the queer women I know, and a good fraction of the sexually adventurous straight ones, really enjoy seeing two guys getting a little hot and heavy with each other… just like most men enjoy watching two women.

Willing? Great! Then you can probably get your girlfriend to return the favor with that sultry blonde bombshell you’ve been eying in the corner. If not, then all I ask is that you remember how you’re feeling right now the next time you think about telling your girlfriend how hot it would be if she made out with her sexy best friend. After all, in this modern world, equal rights is the rule of the day… and turn about is usually fair play.

In many communities around the United States, and across the globe, the intrepid sexual explorer can find places to play in public. There are many wonderful things about public play, which has as many variations as the number of people who participate in it.

Why do people choose to play in public? There are too many reasons to count. They may like to learn. They may like to show off. They may like having the opportunity to practice on equipment that they don’t have access to at home. They may like being able to swing a cat in a place where there’s more than enough room to… swing a cat. Public play can be exciting for so many reasons, from having the opportunity to feed off the energy of a crowd to getting a chance to meet and explore new things with new partners.

When first exploring the BDSM scene, public play can actually be much safer than private play. There are a ways people around if something goes wrong, and if, god forbid, someone ignores a safeword there are usually monitors around who can stop the scene from the outside.

Depending on where you live, you may also find that the public scene may place limits on you that you don’t necessarily have in private. For example, many public dungeons and play parties forbid sexual contact or play that involves blood or other bodily fluid. Spaces may also require that the genitals and/or breasts remain covered at all times.

Although some people chafe at these restrictions, others find that they give them a sense of security. Especially for people who have trouble negotiating, or enforcing, their limits, public play can be a great, safe way to start exploring their darkest dreams.